I am writing this post after a long long time. Well...life is never static and there comes times when one's life takes dramatic turns . As far as my life is concerned , it also took some drastic turns as I got my Masters degree from IIML, lost my Bachleor’s degree to Ranu and got a job at Gurgaon.
Well....it couldn't have gone better. The nerd, gaming freak, shy boy fell into love; the natkhat, simple and complex girl fell into love too....and that too with each other !! The story which started in the Ghasi deptt (the AgFE deptt is affectionately called ghasi at IIT KGP)...culminated unexpectedly at Indore with the shy boy and simple girl getting married !
It was a typical Indian marriage celebrated by 2 different set of cultures and it was an interesting affair. Two sets of relatives watched curiously as the other set performed some esoteric rituals and i performed both of them being acquainted with neither. Then I sat down on mandap with two sets of Pagdis on my head being watched by the whole world as we spent 5 hrs in front of thick incense of what seemed like a jungle of jadi-butis. Now I know why people don’t dare to marry more than once in India.
Moreover you can’t eat too much of more than 100 dishes for the fear of encountering embarrassing moments while you were at the stage or in front of the camera nearly for the 2 days. So you have a nice extravagant party thrown to celebrate your new life where you sit helplessly looking over to people having gastronomical adventures.
Then you have panditji asking me to put different condiments into the fire and asking me to put chadawa notes near idol alternatively. And trust me you don’t want to mess with this guy by putting smaller currency when he is about to get you the social acceptance of your love marriage.
Anyway, after putting kilos of perfectly edible material into the fire , I was asked to take impossible vows of keeping her happy always and some others to the same effect. I wanted to raise my objection or at least do some negotiations with panditji but as it seemed he did not have power of attorney to negotiate on laws written in Vedas. It felt like someone gave you a very nice discount offer and after swiping your credit card you get to see the fine print saying “conditions apply”.
After me saying yes to all unreasonable conditions and she saying yes to more unreasonable, we got happily married.
After few more days of relatives giving you joda dinners and funda on how responsibilities will increase, the feeling of being a husband finally begins to sink in. After this festive mood fades down, a new realization of “You are on your own now. Kids” begins as people tell you to how to “adjust” and “compromise” in life.
And this is the time when you begin to really get to know the person you were dating for last 5 years. You get to know about her Bubble Sort Shopping methodology (Carrying the least cost item till you find something cheaper) and Get-Your-Shoes-off-the-carpet habits when she gets to know about your throw-things-wherever-you-like methodology and your pious opinions about washing and ironing clothes.
But all these small fights make life more interesting which otherwise would have been a very boring love story. You realize that life becomes indeed beautiful when two individuals who are opposite and perfectly complementary to each other get married.
And yes this is indeed my ..Happily ever after.
